Shadow and his grandkids

How many children and grandchildren do you have?

I have 3 kids and 3 grandkids. One of each. Just kidding.

How has becoming a grandfather changed your perspective on life and your family dynamics?

A lot! The second time around with grandkids helps because I have so much more experience – not just with raising kids, but with “living life”! And, there’s also the fact that the grandkids have parents – in addition to having me around! I almost always defer to my daughter, Kacie if she is there. She is their Mom, so ultimately any major decision regarding the kids is hers. And it should be!

How do you navigate the different roles of being a parent and also a grandparent?

Very carefully – lol! With all of us living under the same roof, there are sometimes situations where I’ll play the role of “Dad” instead of “Grand Dad” – but that’s only if my daughter isn’t around.

What are some of the joys of having your grandchildren live with you?

There are many! I can honestly say that it’s one of the true joys of life. Getting to see them every day is one. Being around while they do something special is going to happen far more often when we all live in the same place. The flip side of that is that I’m also there during the rough times. Thankfully, Kacie is a great parent, and it is so cool watching your kids grow up to become great adults.

How do you prioritize self care while also providing for your family?

I don’t do real well with this one. I’m home most of the time when I’m not at the Z; there isn’t a lot of time when it’s just “me” at the house. We’ve all been together under the same roof for 2 and 1/2 years, and I believe the amount of time that I’ve been at the house alone is in the single digits. That’s not a complaint, either! I love having my kids and grandkids with me. With that being said, I do need to do a much better job with my self care. It’s something that I will get better at.

What are some of the most memorable moments having your grandchildren live with you?

Waking up on Christmas morning and having us all together is a great one. Taking them to school in the morning and watching them grow is a gift, too. Even on those rare bad days when things aren’t going well, I can find joy in how to deal with it. It’s not just the grandkids that are learning each day – I’m learning, too.

Can you share valuable insight you have gained from being a grandfather?

Always remember that it is a privilege to have them around. I see some friends that have grandkids that they love – but they live in another city or even another state. I realize that I am truly blessed to be in our situation. It’s great watching them grow up day-by-day. I think it’s important to remember that I am a role model, too. Kids are smart, and they see what you do – especially when you live together. Setting a good example to them is so important, and there are times that I fail at that. It’s been good for me, for sure! Having the kiddos in the house is a great reminder for me to work at being a better person, and I am still a work in progress. I wouldn’t have it any other way.